Safety & Protection Concerns

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SAFETY TIPS

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How do I reduce my risk?

 

Suggestions for increasing safety

As with any violent crime, there’s nothing you can do to guarantee that you will not be a victim of sexual violence. But there are steps you can take to help reduce your risk of being assaulted.

 

WHO ARE THE OFFENDERS?

  • It is not always the stranger hiding in the bushes. In fact, approximately two-thirds of victims know their perpetrators. It could be a social acquaintance, friend, neighbor, family member, coach, etc.

  • Many rapists show no evidence of psychological disturbance. Most are in control of their behavior and know it is illegal.

 

AVOID DANGEROUS SITUATIONS

  • Be aware of your surroundings. Knowing where you are and who is around may help you to find a way to get out of a bad situation. Learn a well-lit route back to your place of residence and avoid putting headphones in both ears, especially if you are walking alone.

  • Try to avoid isolated areas and becoming isolated with someone you don’t trust or someone you don’t know well. It is more difficult to get help if no one is around.

  • Walk with purpose. Even if you don’t know where you are going, act like you do. Try not to load yourself down with packages or bags as this can make you appear more vulnerable.

  • Trust your instincts. If a situation or location feels unsafe or uncomfortable, it probably isn’t the best place to be.

  • Make sure your cell phone is with you and charged and that you have cab money.

 

IN A SOCIAL SITUATION

  • When you go to a party, go with a group of friends. Arrive together, check in with each other and leave together. Don’t be afraid to let a friend know if something is making you uncomfortable or if you are worried about your friend’s safety. 

  • Practice safe drinking. If someone offers to get you a drink from the bar at a club or party, go with them to the bar to order it, watch it being poured, and carry it yourself. Don’t drink from punch bowls or other large, common open containers. Don’t leave your drink unattended while talking, dancing, using the restroom, or making a phone call. Watch out for your friends, and vice versa.

  • If someone you don’t know or trust asks you to go somewhere alone, let that person know that you would rather stay with the group. 

 

IF YOU ARE BEING PRESSURED

  • Be true to yourself. Do what feels right to you and what you are comfortable with. Don’t feel obligated to do anything you don’t want to. “I don’t want to” is always a good enough reason.

  • Have a code word with your friends or family so that if you feel threatened you can call them and communicate your discomfort without the person you are with knowing.

  • Lie. If you don’t want to hurt the person’s feelings, it is better to lie and make up a reason to leave than to stay and be uncomfortable, scared or worse.

  • Try to think of an escape route. How would you try to get out of the room? Where are the doors? Windows? Are there people around who might be able to help you? Is there an emergency phone nearby?

  • If you and/or the other person have been drinking, you can say that you would rather wait until you both have your full judgment.

 

ONLINE SAFETY

  • Never give out any personal information when you are online. If you post details about your life, people may be able to figure out your full name, where you work or go to school, and even where you live. Use privacy settings on MySpace, Facebook and blog sites so only people you trust can read your personal info.

  • If you decide to meet in person with someone you met online (assuming that you’re of legal age), take sensible precautions. Take a friend with you, meet in a public place and make sure someone knows where you are going and when you will be back.

  • If you don’t already use up-to-date anti-virus and anti-spyware programs in order to keep your computer safe, we recommend that you either buy or download a free program that will help to protect you and your computer.

  • If you have any reason to think that your computer may not be safe due to spyware, keystroke logging, viruses, or someone monitoring your computer usage in some other way, please consider using an alternate computer. If you can’t borrow a friend’s, most local libraries including the Nantucket Atheneum have public computers you can use free of charge.

  • Avoid websites with which you are unfamiliar. If you feel uncomfortable, log off. 

 

 TRAVEL SAFETY

  • If you are walking – remain mentally alert, carry a small noisemaker (like a whistle) and/or flashlight on your keychain, take major streets and paths rather than less-populated shortcuts.

  • While in the car – Keep your doors locked, have extra car necessities (oil, jumper cables, etc.), try not to wait until the last minute to fill your gas tank, plan your route before you start driving.

  • When taking a cab – If possible, talk to someone on your cell while you are in the cab to let him or her know where you are until you reach your home.

  • When riding the bus or subway – Consult a schedule to avoid waiting for a long time at a stop, use the busiest and best-lit stop possible, tell the driver or use the emergency signal if someone is bothering you.

 

 

 

Source: https://www.asafeplacenantucket.org/get-help/rapesexual-assault/how-do-i-reduce-my-risk

 

 

 

Often people don't feel safe after being sexually assaulted.  No matter when the sexual assault happened, your safety is vital. If you are in immediate danger, contact the police on phone number: 911. 

 

Legal protection


There are ways you can be legally protected from the offender.

If the person who assaulted you can be identified by you or the police then:

  • you can receive legal protection straight away by contacting the police and reporting the sexual assault and in some cases the police may be able to arrest and charge the person quickly and he or she will have bail refused. If bail is granted you may be protected by bail conditions. If the accused is charged, then bail conditions may be applied to prevent any contact with you.

  • you can also gain protection via an Order of Protection. These are court orders designed to prevent the offender contacting you. You can apply for an Order of Protection yourself or the police may do this on your behalf. The person does not have to be charged for you to get an Order of Protection.

 

 

Safety for victims of past sexual assault


Being a victim of a past sexual assault could mean that you have not had contact with the offender for many years. However, if the offender is a family member or friend then it is possible you still have contact with them.

 

No matter when the sexual assault happened, your safety is vital.


When considering your situation, think about the following:

  • Do you have day-to-day contact with the offender?

  • Does this person frighten or intimidate you?

  • What is the offender's relationship with people you know?

  • Who do you trust?


If you fear for your safety, consider whether you want to:

  • Talk to a counsellor or police officer about your concerns

  • Report the incident to the police

  • Report the incident to the Child Protection Services, if you are a child or young person or are concerned about a child or young person

  • Take out an apprehended an Order of Protection.

 

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